The New Currency!
The new currency is... relationships!
A significant part of our well being is the degree of connectedness we have with others. Those relationships outside of our immediate families, play a big role in our growth and happiness. Authentic, real and meaningful relationships are the new currency. In a world where we rely so heavily on digital communication, real and authentic connections are more important now than ever before. That precious face to face time with people is powerful! In those face to face moments the potential is there to connect with someone and communicate with love, compassion and kindness - a common language that we all understand. One of my favourite books of all time, and one that has been something of a Leadership manual to me in my role at work, is Dale Carnegie's 'How to Win Friends & Influence People'. In his book Carnegie says 'Hardwired into all of us is the desire for honest communication - to understand and to be understood. Beyond than, for authentic connection - to be known , accepted, and valued.' With so much of our communication online, I sometimes wonder if we are at risk of 'disconnecting' from each other, especially given that authentic connection is vital for us.
Here are some of my thoughts on the subject ... See everyone you meet as an opportunity to learn and grow from. Listen in! Listening is the most important component of any relationship. People like to feel heard. Keep Maya Angelou's famous quote at the forefront of your mind...
'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.' That's a tricky one to achieve online!
Praise people (genuinely)! As humans we thrive on being praised and valued. It causes us to flourish and reach for our highest potential.
Treat everyone you meet very well - you never know who knows who and when you may meet that person again!
If you want to really nurture a relationship, go the extra mile and send something tangible like a card, note or letter. As crazy as it sounds, it's so lovely to receive an actual handwritten note. I have a colleague at work that leaves hand written quotes on my desk at least three days a week. There is a beautiful connection there, with words not even spoken!
Think twice before texting or emailing someone news, that could be conveyed with so much more compassion in person.
No act of kindness is ever too small! Good relationships are built up over time as a result of many small acts - not one big act!
When speaking with people, visualize sending them love. Imagine a pure energy flowing from your heart to them. It's amazing what a difference this simple act can make!
Well Being @ Work Tip!
Really focus on what people are saying to you and carefully consider your responses. Words are so powerful - make every one of them count!